A lot of people in the world, especially weak people make the awful mistake of coming up with excuses and whatnot to either justify or deny outright their shortcomings to themselves. What these people don’t realize more often than not is that doing so is only going to make things worse, especially in the long run; when you have a problem e.g. being an alcoholic, do you seriously think that being in denial and pretending that everything is fine when it isn’t is going to help your cause? Of course not. It’s going to make things even worse. When you have a wound, for example a gash on your arm.. do you think that pretending that it’s not there because it hurts too much to even think about it or look at it let alone have it treated is going to make things better or it’s going to make the wound go away? No, the adverse is going to happen; the wound is going to get infected and you might seriously be in danger of losing the arm altogether. The problem is that a lot of these people lack the strength of will and other virtues needed to admit their own shortcomings to themselves, let alone actually overcoming them which takes a lot of work needless to say.
Solution to this? You need to straightforwardly be honest with yourself; if you’re ugly, the only way that you’re going to become attractive or stand a chance in doing so is by looking in the mirror at yourself and admitting that you’re ugly in intricate detail. Once you fully come to terms with what the world reminds you of every second of every day in the way of your shortcomings, then you can actually brainstorm solutions or at the very least accept your shortcomings to the fullest. But being and living in denial will only lead to more misery like I said, especially in the long run and leave one mentally broken, repeating the cycle of feeling sorry for yourself and frustrated etc. over and over again. But understand one thing: living in denial because you do not have the balls to admit painful reality to yourself, regardless of how painful it is will only lead to so much more misery & pain.
Example
* PS. In aforementioned example (taken from the TV show game of thrones) let it be noted that this applies to things that you cannot do anything about (generally speaking).
The importance of seeing yourself realistically
